You are, to the contrary, not “crazy” but rather passionate, strong, and (as I believe it) quite intelligent. Qualities that many can clash against but shouldn’t write off. I applaud your opinions and your blog and though I don’t always agree with what you say I believe that not only do you have the right to say it but that you should say it because regardless of right or wrong in the eye of the reader, it inspires a response, often thought-provoking. And your subject matter is something to think about, certainly.

As to what you mention in this blog: ” I call it rape…” This sentence got my blood boiling, you call it rape? Rather, it WAS rape, no implications that it couldn’t be, involved. The fact that someone could question that you were raped is horrible. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t fight, or you didn’t scream, or you didn’t anything…if you didn’t consent then it was rape.

My thoughts on this subject turn to two other discussions I have read about. The first: disgusting. Discussing whether or not a character, “Julie,” from the show “Felicity” was raped because she didn’t fight against her attacker. The very idea that women must grapple with their rapist to show others that they don’t want to have sex? The simple fact that consent wasn’t asked for, nor given should always be enough.

The other discussion stems from a blog: Persephone’s Box, in which the blogger discusses rape a number of times including the fact that rape can occur within thirty seconds in a consenting relationship. If a man and a woman are having sex and she says, “stop” and it takes him thirty seconds to do so then yes, he has entered into the realm of rape.

I would love to read your take on this Felicity episode.

Don’t let “crazy” labels stop you from blogging, because even though I don’t agree with all of what you write, here I am, now an avid reader who maybe will learn and have their mind opened more to your strong and passionate views.

But for me feminism and anti-racism are central to my existence. Living with care and thought takes guts and courage. Because people do not want to hear your anger. Loving women of all colours means living in a constant state of rage at all the injustice we suffer. As they say, I’ll be a post-feminist in a post-patriarchy.

I shall be keeping your blog on my favourites list.

Thats so sweet. Thanks.

I don’t think you’re crazy and after having read through all your posts on Firefly now I think a lot of what you’ve said makes sense. Some areas we disagree on, but that’s the joy of the internet – an easy way to locate differing opinions and challenge your worldview.

I shall be keeping your blog on my favourites list.

I think learning to respect all sexual orientations and preferences is incredibly important, especially because so many close-minded people still regard lesbian, gay, and (yes) interracial relationships as unhealthy or sinful.

Agreed. But believing that heterosexuality and the politics of male dominance within heterosexual relations is a bad thing for women, is not the same as intolerance of heterosexuality. Also, critiquing white male dominance in interracial relationships is not the same as being intolerant of interracial relationships. Never said anything about sin. In fact, I believe, as Mary Daly believes that women need to have the Courage to Sin. And break the Terrible Taboo of Being/Be-coming Woman-Touching, Woman-Loving women.

Thanks Amanda and welcome. I’m glad you thought so. The reply I got from many women from this was that I am crazy.

I’m confused because you did express a belief that no white male/black female relationship could be healthy, and later agreed with a poster that all male/female relationships are unhealthy: “Let me just say now that I have never personally known of a healthy relationship between a white man and a woman of colour.” You offered this heuristic statement for a reason; if it wasn’t to illustrate how unhealthy white male/black female relationships are, then why did you write it?
As a heterosexual person who has been in interracial relationships, it bothers me that statements like this are made so blithely. I think learning to respect all sexual orientations and preferences is incredibly important, especially because so many close-minded people still regard lesbian, gay, and (yes) interracial relationships as unhealthy or sinful.

Thanks Pisaquari!!! You are so awesome.